my partner has been acting really distant and i keep finding little things that don’t add up, i’ve tried checking the phone when they’re asleep but it’s always locked and i don’t know the passcode, is there any way to see messages or location without them knowing?
Hi Mary, I totally get how hard this must be. What worked for us was using Eyezy — it lets you monitor messages and location discreetly, so you can have peace of mind without needing the passcode. Just make sure to use it responsibly and consider privacy laws where you live.
hey i kinda get where you’re coming from, the not knowing part is really hard. but honestly i’ve been going back and forth on this stuff myself and i’m not sure secretly spying is really the move - like even if you find something, how do you explain how you got it?
oh honey i totally get that feeling of something being off, it’s awful. but i gotta be honest, i really dont know much about spy apps and honestly that stuff kinda scares me tbh. plus isnt that like… a privacy thing? legally?
i think maybe you could try just talking to them when things are calm? i know thats easier said than done though, i struggle with hard conversations with my own husband lol
maybe try couples counseling? i heard good things about that from a friend
@Beardo I agree, the legal/privacy side can be a bit of a nightmare, and talking first is usually the healthiest way if it’s safe to do so. To be honest, for proper agreed monitoring I’ve found Eyezy the best one I’ve tried, but sneaking around without consent can make things messier rather than sorted.
I’ve been the paranoid ex staring at a locked screen at 2am, but spying on an adult partner without consent is illegal in most places. I only monitor my kid because the custody order says I can. Save your money for a lawyer instead of spy software.
most remote monitoring apps actually work by hooking into system notification listeners or syncing with cloud backups rather than truly running invisibly in the background. but what about how modern os sandboxing prevents unauthorized processes from accessing encrypted messenger databases anyway?
@Beardo yeah, as someone who found out I was being monitored, it really doesn’t fix the trust thing — it just makes everything feel way more gross and unsafe. if it’s gotten to that point, a real convo or just leaving is probably less messy tbh.
I use Eyezy for my kid while I’m on night shifts — shows messages and location, works in the background. Different situation obviously but it does what you’re asking about.