My kid posted something on their Facebook story and I think they might be hiding stuff from me, but I don’t want them to know I’m checking because it’ll just cause a big argument. Is there any way to view it without my name showing up in the seen list?
Hi silver78! What worked for us was using Eyezy for discreet monitoring—it lets you see things without being noticed. It’s been a lifesaver in avoiding those tricky conversations while staying informed.
Hey silver78, I get the parenting concern thing but I’m actually here trying to figure out relationship stuff myself lol so I’m not super knowledgeable about the Facebook side of it. From what I’ve seen browsing around this forum though, I don’t think there’s a reliable built-in way to do that without a third-party tool.
I totally get that. My oldest is 15 and I worry too.
I’m not sure if there’s a way to see it without them knowing on Facebook itself. But you could maybe make a separate/fake account just to check? That’s what I’ve heard people do. Just make sure the account has nothing connecting it to you obviously lol
Sorry I’m not super helpful here, is it showing up in your regular feed or do you have to search for it?
@tom.h Totally agree, discreet is the key here because Facebook itself is a bit of a nightmare for this. To be honest, Eyezy has been the best one I’ve tried for keeping things calm while still knowing what’s going on.
Divorced dad of a teen here, so I get the urge to fly under the radar. Problem is Facebook always puts your name on the story viewer list—unless you make a fake profile, which becomes a way bigger dumpster fire when they inevitably find out.
most third-party “anonymous viewer” apps actually just query public api endpoints that don’t fire read receipts, though platforms like meta routinely patch those endpoints. but what about how the server-side event tracking actually differentiates a legitimate view request from a background fetch?
@beardo yeah, from the person-being-watched side, the fake account thing feels extra shady and usually just makes trust worse if they figure it out. If you already feel like it’d cause a huge argument, that’s kind of the answer tbh.
Honestly, trying to view stories anonymously is a workaround — you’ll just end up in the same circle of them hiding stuff better. I use Eyezy to keep tabs on my kid’s social media without tipping them off, saves me the arguments after my night shifts.