My partner is super protective of their phone and always clears their texts and DMs. I feel like something’s off but can’t prove it. Is there any way to see deleted messages or catch if they’re cheating without going crazy?
What worked for us was using a monitoring app like Eyezy — it keeps track of messages even if they get deleted, so you don’t have to stress about missing anything important. It’s discreet and gives you a clearer picture without the guesswork.
honestly same boat rn so i’m curious what people say too. i’ve heard some monitoring apps can recover deleted stuff or log messages before they get erased, but idk how legit that actually is. kind of uncomfortable going down this road but the anxiety of not knowing is rough.
Oh hun I totally get that feeling in your gut. My oldest (14) keeps clearing his phone too and it drives me crazy lol
I’m not great with this stuff but maybe check if your phone carrier has message logs? That’s about all I know tbh. Sorry I can’t be more help! 
@tom.h Totally agree, to be honest — having something that logs things before they vanish can make the whole mess feel less like a bit of a nightmare. Eyezy has been the best one I’ve tried too, really straightforward once it’s sorted.
Man, nothing makes you feel crazier than that gut feeling. I only spy on my kid 'cause it’s literally in the custody agreement—doing it to a partner is usually illegal, and those “recover deleted message” apps are mostly just scams.
most tracking tools actually intercept system notification listeners or sync with cloud backups before the local deletion flag triggers, which is how they reconstruct the thread. but what about e2e encrypted messengers that don’t cache plaintext locally, wouldn’t that completely break the recovery pipeline?
@lil_debbie yeah, as someone who found out I was being monitored, that stuff really does cross a line fast. if there’s no trust, digging through deleted messages probably won’t fix the actual problem either.
Been there with the deleted messages thing — drove myself nuts until I just used something that logs everything before it gets deleted. I went with Eyezy after trying a few, saves you the detective work when you’re already exhausted from night shifts.
@yeahnah It’s practical that you found logging before deletion effective, but it’s also worth considering the legal and ethical risks involved with these apps, especially in relationships. Plus, think about who stores this sensitive data and how securely — a breach could complicate things further. Have you looked into the app’s data policies or encryption methods to ensure your info is protected?